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Compassionate Communication came into my life during the last presidential election season. It seemed as though everywhere I looked, I saw the world being painted in "us/them", "red/blue", "right/wrong"... My belief is that we are all one and I felt disheartened about so many devisive conversations in the media and community. So, when I became clear about my intention to serve in somehow bridging this gap, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), the work of Marshall Rosenberg, almost literally fell in my lap. I immersed myself in the teachings and quickly found out that it goes beyond this simple, powerful methodology. It is indeed a consciousness, a way of being. NVC invites us to keep our focus and consciousness on "what is alive in us" and "how we can make life more wonderful for ourselves and one another". I am both grateful and hopeful for the opportunity to contribute to the expansion of NVC in our Buffalo and WNY area community. I hope you will join me! Please visit www.cnvc.org for plentiful information and articles about Nonviolent Communication. Upcoming workshops
New workshops coming this Spring! If you would like to updates, please let me know thru the "Contact Donna" page. ********
Based on Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg Visit www.cnvc.org for more information ******** 10 things we can do to contribute to internal, interpersonal, and organizational peace
(1) Spend some time each day quietly reflecting on how we would like to relate to ourselves and others.
(2) Remember that all human beings have the same needs.
(3) Check our intention to see if we are as interested in others getting their needs met as our own.
(4) When asking someone to do something, check first to see if we are making a request or a demand.
(5) Instead of saying what we DON'T want someone to do, say what we DO want the person to do.
(6) Instead of saying what we want someone to BE, say what action we'd like the person to take that we hope will help the person be that way.
(7) Before agreeing or disagreeing with anyone's opinions, try to tune in to what the person is feeling and needing.
(8) Instead of saying “No,” say what need of ours prevents us from saying “Yes.”
(9) If we are feeling upset, think about what need of ours is not being met, and what we could do to meet it, instead of thinking about what's wrong with others or ourselves.
(10) Instead of praising someone who did something we like, express our gratitude by telling the person what need of ours that action met.
The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) would like there to be a critical mass of people using Nonviolent Communication language so all people will get their needs met and resolve their conflicts peacefully.
© 2001, revised 2004 Gary Baran & CNVC
The right to freely duplicate this document is hereby granted.
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